What Is the “Couple Seeking Unicorn” Exactly Meaning?
We’re all familiar with the mythical unicorn—a horse with an insanely phallic symbol protruding from its forehead. Or the Silicon Valley unicorn—a startup valued at over a billion dollars. To some idiot I met at a party a few weeks back, a unicorn is a “not insanely expensive” apartment in Brooklyn. But now let’s focus on another type of unicorn: the third who sleeps with couples.
Advice for Initial Action
Maybe you should start exploring from Tinder instead of going straight. Before all, based on the experience of ALANA HEIS, we recommend people who have some experience and are willing to continue to choose Feeld or other such apps. But if you are just curious, try not to be too fast.
When You Are Ready to Dive In
So, you just posted on a cool Poly forum. You posted that you and your partner are ready to open up your relationship and find a special person to add to it. For some reason, a ton of people seemed upset at your post and started replying with a bunch of hostile, snarky comments that didn’t describe you at all. They told you that you were doing it wrong, that you are bad for wanting to find someone. Why? Why did they give me such comments? Aren’t they supposed to be open and accepting? One thing that many of them said was that you are a “Unicorn Hunter”. A “Unicorn” is that rare, mythical figure that many couples look for, a polyamorous, bisexual woman, someone who might want to date both you and your partner. That sounds good. And that means that “Unicorn Hunters” are a couple who are looking for that person to join their relationship or sexually night.
A Triad is a Poly relationship where three people are all in relationship with each other, as opposed to a “V”, where two of the people aren’t connected with each other directly.
Making a Triad, isn’t that what Poly is? Isn’t that the point? What the hell is wrong with that? Why did all of these people have such a major stick up their butt?
If you have a conversation with a new-to-Poly couple about what they are looking for and start asking some probing questions, many answers come out that are pretty consistent. People who are in this position have very predictable challenges and concerns. These are so common that people who have seen this play out before will often have a strong, negative reaction to your initial introduction before you have shared any details.
Common Issues When Opening the Unicorn Relationship
- Discretion about the relationship model to friends/family/co-workers/other communities.
- How to be honest/fair with the new person.
- How to make sure that they were picking the right person.
- Ways to prevent jealousy.
- Protecting their relationship.
How to Solve
After all, you can’t build strong relationships by skirting around or avoiding issues like insecurity and jealousy, which is exactly what “Rules” attempt to do, you have to go directly through these issues. Address them head-on, find effective skills to manage the underlying causes and root them out at their source.
The risk with calculation.
Be open to new experiences.
Be strong in the face of your insecurity.
Dare to grab for the life you want.
Meet exciting people.
BE an exciting person.
Build valuable relationships.